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If there is a mistake: I AM A WOMAN LOOKING FOR A MAN!!!!!

I am attracted to men, who keep off female bodies unless the appreciate and respect a woman's invisible qualities so much, that they want long-term monogamous commitment. The probability to be such a man is higher, when a man is shy than when he is very outgoing. This is the reason, why I have joined this site, even though I am more reticent by choice than shy myself.

I am looking for my mindmate and companion to grow old together in a serious, close, bonded, exclusive, committed relationship, as a shared and reciprocal safe haven.
My wish is a relationship according to the 'Egalitarian Rational Commitment Paradigm'. A web search will lead you to where you can learn more about this concept.

I am German, this explains my not perfect English. My search for a compatible mindmate is world wide, if there is a common language, which can be English, German, Spanish, French, Dutch or Italian. In the times of email, telephone and airtravel, geographical distance is much easier to overcome than mental distance.

I will send a picture in private email, but only after a bit of corresponding, when there is enough interest in my person. I do not want to be either chosen or rejected because of a picture. If my profile without a picture does not interest you, then you are too superficial for me.

You are PHILEMON, if you

~ are a man between about 60 and 70;
~ are a university graduate;
~ are an atheist and apistic, a skeptic, rational and free of any woo-woo-beliefs;
~ are childfree by not having any children of any age;
~ are really free, not only 'separated' and you do not surround you with a harem of deactivated intimate (pseudo-ex-) partners;
~ do not have or need pets;
~ are politically between left and green;
~ are bearded and natural by refraining from any body-modification, lacking vanity;
~ do not smoke and drink in moderation,
~ value sharing time and activities with a partner much more than money;
~ feel a stronger need for togetherness and sharing than for personal space and independence;
~ are more an Epicurean than a hedonist;
~ have high ethical standards and values like honesty, sincerity, monogamy, faithfulness, reliability, responsibility, consideration;
~ are sensitive, emotional, caring, hypoanimalistic,
~ are a deep thinker, who enjoys meaningful and constructive communication;
~ prefer cooperation over competition;
~ are attracted to a mate by her aptitude for intellectual intimacy;
~ are clever enough to find and contact me !

With the exception of the beard, I am all of the above myself.

In contrast to many other women, it is UNIMPORTANT for me, if you are or are not
~ taller than myself (5'4")
~ wealthy with a high social status
~ a strong and muscular stud

I want to love, not to puke. I do NOT want any contact with men, who evoke my nausea, because they are:
~ cheaters;
~ promiscuous like alley dogs abusing female bodies without long-term commitment;
~ consumers of pornography;
~ consider such behaviors as principally acceptable

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EthnicityCaucasian / White
National heritageGerman
Height163 cm
Eye ColorBlue
Hair ColorLight brown
Hair LengthVery long
Body ArtNone
Health ConditionNo special Health Conditions
My AttractivenessAverage


Relationship StatusSingle
Has childrenNo children
Wants kidsNo
Housing SituationThere is no noise
Living ArrangementsAlone
Wants to RelocateNo
Has a carNo

Education & Employment

EducationUniversity Masters

Leisure & Fun

Favorite TV showsI prefer international online information over german tv
Favorite movies typesDocumentary
Music typesCountry, Latin, Folk
Favorite artistsworld music
Favorite bookstoo much to list
Idea of funculture and creativity
HobbiesArts & Crafts, Reading, Learning, Music, Theater, Travel, Camping, Computers


SmokerDon't smoke
DrinkingLight / social drinker
Social behaviorFriendly
Friends describe asFriendly
In High School I was a(n)Quiet one
Sense of humorFriendly
My great timeReading a book, Going to a museum


Political viewsSocialist
Attend religious servicesNever

Looking For

Must haveIntelligence, Great skills, Empathy, Sensitivity, Thoughtfulness